Exciting News

I know I havent written in a while but I have been lingering on exciting news that I recieved on Sept. 8th. If you dont know already I had been adopted in 1989 and had always wanted to meet the women who brought me into this world, and raised me for the first two years of my life. I had been on a long search that had lasted for around 5 years now..about two weeks ago, I began to get discourraged that I would never find her. I had such little information I thought that I would give it one last shot..because I was so tired and frustrated, I said one last prayer to God about this situation and said "if it is in your will for me and my birthmother to be reunited, then let it be." I looked over at my husband and said to him "i think I have come to the realization that I will never find 'Lisa'. He said I should give it a long search tommorow, and then just leave it in God's hands. So the next morning I got up really early on Tuesday, Sept 8th and gathered up the little info I had with me which was: Her name-Lisa Cioto which was her maiden name, and I had her social security number and where her and her mother and father had once lived while I was young. I went on all kinds of websites and even googled her name..Finally I went on a search engine and looked for anybody with that last name and the place where they might be living which was King, NC. I found the names, Donna and Frank Cioto..and they lived in King, NC. I supposed that they may be my grandparents because those were the only names that showed up. But I could not get contact with them without putting up some money for the real info like phone numbers and such. Around 3:00 I went on youtube and poured out my story and discussed the info on th video and told everything I knew as a last resourt hoping that somebody might see the video and know something. Then I watched a video where a guy had posted a vid about finding his birthmother on facebook..I watched it and was soo amazed..I thought "well everybody is on facebook now a days..I will look up her name.." I found no Lisa Cioto, but I looked up the last name anyways, without lisa and found somebody (the only one with that last name mind you) and proceeded to write a message and ask him if he knew somebody named Lisa Cioto..he messaged me back a few minutes later and said "yes! I do, she is my cousin and she lives in NC, why do you ask?" I wrote back and only gave him little info such as that I was adopted and looking for my birthmother..he messaged me back and said that he was calling some relatives to see if it might be her..he messaged back again and said "FACT: Lisa did have a child in 1987 named Katherine that she gave up for adoption!!" I freaked and said OMG-I can not believe this..after many messages and finding out that the Donna and Frank I had searched were Lisa's parents in fact!! He called Donna and told her to contact Lisa and tell her, and it was my birthmother..and she really wanted to talk to me, he said she burst into tears and had been waiting on me for a long time. I found out that her name was no longer Cioto, instead she was married to my birthfather, and kept his last name, even tho they were devorced after the adoption, and was already remarried, in hopes that it would be easier for me to find her. I found that she had been hoping i would find her since I was 18. So much information was exchanged through these last weeks by phone and letter, and my mom told me why I was given up (which will be explained in another post soon) and we just cried and cried and cried and have spoken every day since. It was the most amazing blessing I have ever recieved. The good thing is is that she lives in Morhead City, NC only 6 hours from me, and we found out that I probably have passed her by many times, because my father in law has a beach house just 20 minutes away from there. I know where she lives and everything. I guess I wanted to share all of this becuase I found that prayer does work and God answers when He sees most fit, and that you should never give up on finding somebody or anything that you want to do or see or find, you just never know.
I will be sharing more on this soon. I feel that this whole thing is like story straight out of the Lifetime movies..I cant wait to share with you how it came to be of my birthparents and the whole story of how I was adopted..it is amazing and very sad. I will also be letting you know what happens after next week when I meet her, and the half sister that I have too!!

God Bless and prayers for miracles :-)
Katie<3

to be honest...

There are some things that HONESTLY make me mad..and rather than be fake about it and deny when I am asked I will plainly just tell the truth about it. Recently I have seen the show on MTV "im 16 and pregnant" Ill tell you what makes me just so mad inside. I see these young kids get pregnant and didnt even want the kid (which they should know better than to not use protection-hello?) and they have the child..yet here I am sitting with my husband praying all the time that God will bless US with a child someday. How are they blessed with a child and Im not..just saying, and Im probably not the only one who feels this way. Another thing that makes me mad is people who lay some smack talk on MY religion (and others) when they know NOTHING about it. Like, Im a christian and I dont knock on other peoples Gods and spirits, because I know nothing about it. For people to sit there and say that God does not exist, well prove it, and another thing, what is the harm in believeing anyways, if and when the earth dwells away, what have you lost in not believing (if God doesnt come, which HE WILL)-you have lost nothing. That just makes me mad. Another think that makes me mad is the economy (who isnt) but back in the old days when this happened in the 30's I think it was, the President (sorry I do not support ours now) provided jobs for the unemployed, which they may not have payed very much, but they sure had people working for their families, unlike today! Well, thats all for now, if you have any questions, please feel free to ask, Im on a mission to not be a liar anymore when somebody asked me my opinion even if it makes them angry-trust me-Ill just tell you straight up what I think! Sorry-just felt like saying this today!

finding the light through the dark..

We are Matthew and Katie Staley. We live in a small town in North Carolina where nothing is going on, and hardly anything ever happens. We both grew up here, and are still stuck here. We both are collecting unemployment, and desperatly searching for jobs in a jobless county. My husband Matthew is in school right now for Phelbotomy (which is a blessing that it is free for him), and I am hoping when he is done, to go to Cosmotology school, which is my passion. We have went through many tough breaks, and rarely CATCH a break. We got married very young, but were determined to prove everybody wrong, we were sooo in love, and we are and are still together. A year and a half later we were suprised to find out that we were pregnant, and were excited afterwards and knew we were going to have a baby, later on we found out that I had misscarried. Though it was heartbreaking we got through it and moved on sometime later, we thought maybe it just wasnt the right time, and God had a plan for the next time. We then only had one income in the household and I was on the move again trying to find a job. I found a job at a daycare and fell in love with the children and wanted one very badly, our house just felt empty. A few months later we were very excited when we again found out I was pregnant this year in February. This time we were mentally prepared, but not totally financially prepared, but our family helped up push through. We were soo thankful to God for blessing us with another pregnancy and had high hopes that a little baby was about to enter our lives..but yet again in April we lost the baby..and this time..it was seriously a difficult time for Matthew and I. I had to have surgery to remove the fetus and had never been put to sleep and was scared. Now the crib, and all the clothes sit in a room, gathering dust, and so did our hearts. For a long time, up until recently we both became very depressed in our faith in God . We were both raised in families who taught us that with God all things are possible, and some how we had forgotten that. We have started to attend church more often and have decided there is nothing we can do by ourselves. We have put our faith in God completly and wholely and hope-someday-that we will be blessed with our miracle, and that He will lead us to a life that is full and abundant, and soon will guide us into the light through the darkness.